Say Anything is one of the greatest movies of all time.
I’ve had the amazing experience lately of being able to relive the 80’s again, but in a whole new way. Recently I had the joy of interviewing my dear old friend and new author Kari Luna on my radio show (here’s the link to that show:http://paramaniaradio.com/On-Demand.php?ondemanddir=Traveling%20Psychic%20Supper%20Club )- she wrote a bad ass book all about the 80’s, mixed tapes and kooky wonderful outfits, which also includes physics, loving friends and a wonderful story. Her book is called The Theory of Everything. You should read it. it’s Awesome. The 80’s were Awesome! And we lived it. The music the clothes, the awkward situations… everything….SO – I watched Say Anything this morning with my daughter, who is 15. I just let her watch it, and didn’t add anything. That’s the way to watch a movie like that, without any extra stuff to think about. But here’s the stuff I wanted to say:
Actually, I’m not going to tell you the things I wanted to say about the movie or the people in the movie and where they are now… I’ll see what everyone remembers about the movie, how it made you feel, or what you think of it now, watching it again as an adult or watching it for the first time. I’d love it if you added a comment about your thoughts on Say Anything…..Either way, watch it. This is something I got out of it….and was thinking about as I was watching it.
I am lucky. NO – I am tremendously lucky. Diane, the main character in the movie has this wonderful relationship with her father, where she can literally say anything. It made me start thinking about the people in my life, and how I too, can say anything. I am amazingly grateful for this. It has to do with dropping fear. For me, but also for the people around me, not being afraid. In the past few weeks I’ve had some opportunities to tell someone, and hear back from someone – Anything. And coming from a place of not being afraid, was the key. Not being afraid they couldn’t handle it. Not being afraid it was the wrong thing. Or would be taken the wrong way. Just knowing what I was saying was the right thing – the only thing – this person at this time expected to hear from me. This is tremendously freeing. To be able to SAY and HEAR ANYTHING.
No, it’s not always been that way. Who hasn’t been Diane Court, amazingly hopeful, also disappointed, afraid, not knowing what to do or what comes next? On a pedestal one minute, then had the rug pulled out, not knowing how bad the fall is going to be? Who hasn’t been Lloyd Dobler – put it all out there, told the truth, gotten smashed? Had the opportunity to be the one with the upper hand, and used it with love? Who hasn’t been Jim Court, wanting to hold onto what you’ve got, while you’re losing everything, living in a prison of poor choices and grave mistakes, created out of sheer love, but turned wrong somewhere all because of wanting to protect someone we love? Who hasn’t been looked up to, or the one looking up to them? The one standing on the rug, or the one having the rug pulled out, hard and fast? The one needing a hand, or the one extending it? The mistake maker, or the one the mistake was made against? Who hasn’t been all of them, in one lifetime, at one point or another?
I heard In Your Eyes a whole new way today too, the song Lloyd plays for Diane, yes the iconic with John Cusack holding the boom box in the rain – there’s only a piece of it, here: And if you haven’t watched the movie, DON’T WATCH THIS!! Watch the movie first. But if you’ve seen it, it’s a nice little recap. And you get to hear the song. I like what it says, we’re all complete. Not YOU COMPLETE ME. But we are all complete in each other’s eyes. Especially the eyes of those we love.
Watching this movie again after so many years of experiences…I have a new perspective. And it’s just as wonderful as my perspective when I saw it the first time. It’s one of hope. With a lifetime of education. It’s waking up not knowing every day, but working with what I’ve got, flying, Like Diane, into the future, with people around and behind me, each a Lloyd Dobler, who is turning it UP past the red line. We all are each of the characters, looking up, in anticipation, waiting for it, waiting for it…